There is an endless suppy of advice out there on how to win your girlfriend back. People will tell you that you can win her back by being nice to her or buying her a nice present or apologizing and working through your problems. People will tell you that you can change her mind and get her back by being romantic or promising to change but you will find that most of this information is complete junk. The truth stands in stark contrast to this advice and you might be shocked by what will actually work in helping you to win her back.

I want you to take this advice with a grain of salt, first. I want you to try to keep an open mind because much of this advice flies directly in the face of what everyone else might be telling you to do to try to salvage your relationship. The truth is that they are only feeding you recycled advice that has never worked and never will work. I am talking about stuff like...

If you think that you can win her back by being nice then go ahead and give it a try. I am pretty sure that your ex will lose respect for you immediately and you might as well put on a skirt and offer to go shoe shopping with her. This popular piece of advice that is supposed to keep you from making matters worse actually accomplishes that task rather quickly once you appear to no longer have a spine.

Don't get me wrong. I am all for being nice to women when they deserve to be treated nicely but I am against being nice to someone that has torn your heart out. Only a weak man is nice to someone that has devastated their life. If you want, you can be nice to her again once you win her back but being nice to her hoping to win her favor is not going to help you to win her heart or make her feel butterflies or see rainbows when she is around you.

Talking about your problems is another option that will end in failure and only make things worse if you were hoping to win her back. You might think that this is the perfect solution. All you have to do is talk about what went wrong, come up with some ground rules so the same thing doesn't happen again and she will take you back, right? The honest truth is that she doesn't want to talk about your problems. They were your problems and her solution was to break up with you. Problem solved!

Let me put it this way. Do you like talking about unpleasant things? Nobody does! So save talking for a little pillow talk after you win her back, ok? Save your breath and your dignity in the meantime and just keep your mouth shut until you do get her back. Keeping your mouth shut keeps you from saying anything stupid and making matters worse, ok?

If you really want to get her back you're going to have to be ruthless. Yes, you read that right. My suggestion is to win her back by being unrelentingly ruthless in your pursuit of getting your ex back. Have no mercy and hold nothing back in your bid to win her back and you will find success. This mean, pushing every emotional hot button you can think of that is proven to bring out the emotions that a woman needs to feel to be attracted to a guy. This mean doing whatever is necessary to win her back without breaking any laws or physcially hurting anyone.

None of this means that you have to be cruel or evil to her but it may mean that you deny your feelings for her for a while. It means that you might have to say some things that aren't quite true if you are confronted such as denying that you want to get her back. It means that you need to stay focused and be always mindful of the big picture and your long term goal. It means delaying immediate gratification in order to get her back and make her fall in love with you again. You must be ruthless with yourself and her, if need be, by playing her emotionally so you can win her back forever.